Vicky asked: My husband has been playing online poker (play money on full tilt poker) for the past six months. He has always liked gambling and goes to Atlantic City a lot (we live in NJ). I never liked it, but would go with him sometimes just not to fight with him.
Since he found poker online, he has been acting weird and secretive. He now talks to all those poker friends online, taking it to his email and phone (All females). When I confronted him with this, he says that I am insecure and he is only making friends. However, on my snoop (yeah, I was wrong to do this but felt I had just cause), he exchanges pictures and IMs all day from work. I questioned him about it, and he said it meant nothing; he is just doing it for fun and excitement. But now he resents that I snooped….
We’ve been married for 8yrs with no kids. We are currently trying to start a family, but all this things adds stress to me. I am 30yrs old and he is 40 and I keep thinking that he’s probably tired of waiting for me to have a kid and now he’s indulging himself by becoming addicted to online poker and chatting. I tried talking to him, but it’s almost like he blocked me out. I suggested counseling, but he says I have the problem not him. He is becoming so withdrawn and I don’t know what to do anymore. I am not fighting anymore, but I am having stress attacks etc. I just feel that inevitably chatting etc could lead to even bigger problems such as cheating etc.
We go to church, I am strong in my beliefs etc, however, he only goes because I go. I don’t know what to do anymore, I don’t want to involve our families since this would make him mad and my family would resent him. Any advice anyone??? Thanks in advance.
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